AdvoCatie

Hi, I'm Catie, your personal self-advocacy guide! Do you have an interpersonal conflict? A request you need to make or something you need to say no to? I will help you determine whether and how to talk to the other person and make sure your needs are respected. What do you need help with today? [[I need help deciding whether to advocate for myself.]] [[I need help advocating for myself.]] [[I want to practice advocating for myself.]]

I've generated a link for a conversation that will help you practice and walk through self advocacy. https://beta.character.ai/chat?char=799VDUSczhjO1L397zsLWhu1Z4mUwTABv4F-RCLRnOY [[Home]]

(set: $responses to (array:"It is better not to ask for or hint at your request.", "It is better to hint indirectly at your request, but be willing to take no for an answer.", "It is best to hint openly at your request, but be willing to take no for an answer.", "Make your request tentatively, but be able to take no for an answer.", "Make your request gracefully, but be willing to take no for an answer.", "Make your request confidently, but be willing to take no for an answer.", "Make your requset confidently and resist if the other party tries to deny your request. Try not to take no for an answer.", "Make your request firmly and resist if the other party tries to deny your request. Try not to take no for an answer.", "Make your request firmly under these circumstances. Insist on your request being fulfilled, be willing to negotiate, and keep trying if you get turned down.", "Under these circumstances, ask firmly for what you want and don't take no for an answer.")) ''Your answers have indicated that the intensity level of your request is around $counter. ''(print:$responses's $counter) What would you like to do with this information? [[I need help advocating for myself.]] [[I want to practice advocating for myself.]] [[Home]]

Okay! I'll ask you a couple questions to determine the costs and benefits of advocating for yourself. I'll do this by calculating a level of intensity with which it's best to proceed. ''Click any questions for which the answer is yes: '' (set:$counter to 0) (link: "Is the person you are talking to able to give you what you want?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "The person you are talking to is able to give you what you want.") ] (link: "Is the goal you are advocating for important to you?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "The goal you are advocating for is important to you.") ] (link: "Is your relationship with the person you are talking to shaky?")[ (set: $counter to it - 1) (print: "Your relationship with the other party is shaky.") ] (link: "Is the person you are talking to required by law or moral code to give you what you want?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "The person you are talking to is required by law or moral code to give you what you want.") ] (link: "Are you responsible for or do you have authority over this person?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "You have authority over or responsibility for the other person.") ] (link: "Is the goal you are advocating for significantly important to you?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "This goal is important to you.") ] (link: "Is what you want appropriate given the relationship between you and the person?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "This request is appropriate given your relationship.") ] (link: "Will not asking for what you want create long-run problems for you and/or the other party?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "Not asking for what you want will create problems in the long run.") ] (link: "Do you give more than you take with this person, or do they owe something to you?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "You give more than you take in this relationship.") ] (link: "Have you done your research? do you know all the facts you need to know with respect to this request?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "You've done your homework and are informed on this request.") ] (link: "Are you asking this at an appropriate time, or when the other party is 'in the mood'?")[ (set: $counter to it + 1) (print: "This is an appropriate time to make your request.") ] [[Next]]

Good job working on advocating for yourself. Here's what we worked out for $goal: $d. $e. $a. $r. Remember: Be ''mindful''. Keep your focus on your goal and request, and don't let personal issues or distractions get in the way. Appear ''confident''. Seeming confident in yourself and your request will help you be taken seriously. Be willing to ''negotiate''. Stand your ground, but also be aware of the other person's needs and situation. What would you like to do now? [[Home]] [[I need help deciding whether to advocate for myself.]] [[I want to practice advocating for myself.]]

Good to know. What is your specific goal? (align:"=><=")+(box:"X=")[I need help with...] (input: bind _goal) (link: "Enter")[(print:"Great! I'll help walk you through") (print:_goal)(print:" using therapy techniques.") (print:"First, DESCRIBE the situation or what you have a problem with to me, as if you were talking to the other person.") (input: bind _d) (link: "I'm done")[(print:"Now EXPRESS your feelings about the situation, or the facts as to how it is affecting you.") (input: bind _e) (link: "I'm done")[(print:"Good! Now ASSERT what you need from the other party.") (input: bind _a) (link: "I'm done")[(print:"Finally, REINFORCE your request with what you'll do in return, benefits to the party, or reasoning behind your request.") (input: bind _r) (link: "I'm done")[ (set: $goal to _goal) (set: $d to _d) (set: $e to _e) (set: $a to _a) (set: $r to _r) [[Generate]] ] ] ] ] ]